Shyness can affect anyone, and it can really make social occasions difficult. Fortunately, along the way I decided I was going to conquer this and not let it hold me back!
Be determined to start TODAY to conquer your
Let's First Look At The Main Symptoms:
Shyness is an emotion that affects how a person feels and behaves around others. You can feel uncomfortable, self-conscious, nervous, timid, or insecure. You may also have a sense of being inadequate. A person may experience a range of feelings from mild anxiety in the presence of others to a pronounced anxiety disorder.
I was tired of making excuses for myself and missing out in life. I'm sure you agree those who suffer from shyness do not want to be shy - they want to have control just like everyone else.
The GOOD NEWS is there are things you can do - naturally. Let's look at 3 Specific Steps
Step 1: Put The FOCUS On Other People!
Determine to take your mind off YOU! Tell yourself that you are CONFIDENT. Have a positive mental attitude and put your focus on other people.
Here's an Example - When you meet someone, smile, take a deep breath and ask them a question which requires them to do the talking. It could be, "tell me about yourself (your job, your hometown etc)". Use that time to RELAX and tell yourself you are CONFIDENT, then join in when (if) you are ready. If you are not ready, simply ask another question, smile and keep listening.
Show interest in what the person is saying. When "listening intently" you are not focusing on yourself. Most people enjoy talking about themselves so you can use that time to "breathe and relax".
Remember that with most things PRACTICE makes it easier so have a few questions prepared ahead of time to help start you off. Try practicing with people who make you feel at ease such as a family member or close friend.
Take the focus off your thoughts and concentrate on others.
Step 2: At the beginning of any new "anxious meeting or event", let others know you are shy!
How embarrassing you might think - I don't want people to know about my problem. I totally understand, but think of it this way - here's what you gain:
The pressure is now taken off YOU!
People won't call on you to be lead the group, or to be outspoken with your opinion. They now understand and will not expect you to speak up. Because that pressure if off, you can RELAX. Once you start to "relax" and focus by "listening intently" you slowly begin to gain confidence.
When confidence rises up, you may surprise yourself by contributing with a comment or by simply asking a 'prepared' open question. Once you have contributed with a comment or question - your confidence will grow.
By placing the focus on the other person it gives you time to relax and just listen.
Step 3: Get really good at something!
Want confidence to speak up? Then develop your talent in something you like to do. When you get really good at something you will develop confidence in that subject. Use that knowledge to fall back on when in a situation of shyness.
It takes an extra dose of confidence to speak when you are shy - but if you have a subject you are really comfortable in - it doesn't matter what you say - you are the expert; therefore, you are adding value to the conversation.
There are All-Natural Solutions for SHYNESS, SOCIAL ANXIETY and GENERAL ANXIETY. Get the information you need and don't let shyness hold you back from life. Remember to take small steps (baby steps if necessary). Don't expect to overcome years of shyness overnight; but make a decision that you will overcome this one step at a time. Celebrate each small success - it can be done!
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